Thanks to all who read any part of this. I truly appreciate your eyeballs taking the time to rest upon these words of mine.
What did I learn over these 30 days? What things am I truly taking away from this all and hope that you all do too? Thanks for asking!
1. The whole feel the fear and do it anyways shtick is so correct. I often thought I had to become a different person to truly do the things I wanted to, that I had to swell up my ego so that it was at Kanye West capacity. Sometimes faking it does work. But, sometimes just being okay with that nervousness or self-consciousness and not running away screaming is okay too.
2. That which you need is always inside of you. Corny and should be on the back cover of a self-help bestseller, yes. But, really, the bravery to wear heels didn’t come from a guru or another body image improvement class. While these things are worthy investments, all they do is help realize the power that I always had. It’s an oft repeated story because it’s true: we often journey to find the things we had all along. The confidence to show up fully as myself, 6’3″ to 6’8″ was always here.
3. The wider the heel, the more secure I step. It’s not only the height that matters but the overall construction. If the heel is shifty in anyway, ditch it. This will be in my mind when I make future purchases. Also, better to spend a bit more on a nicely made shoe then some plastic knock-off that blisters toes and makes one’s feet sweat.
4. You never know who you’ll inspire. Now, I get it. Most people, even the ones who made exclamations or snide remarks will forget about me after an hour. They will go about their days and the 6’8″ woman will soon be a distant recollection. However, you really never know who you’ll imprint upon positively. After all, it was a complete stranger in Ikea five years ago who provided the first real example to me about wearing high heels at any height. She probably has no idea who I am and yet I can still recall her confident strut. I felt the more happy and la-di-da I was about wearing heels, the more it was reflected back to me.
5. Sometimes you gotta stop the bellyaching and just do things. Not for the fame or acclaim, the followers, or Instagram reposts but because life is life. One day it will not be here. Some people will have a problem with these moves and most of the world, unless you’re the Pope or Beyonce, just won’t care. That’s okay. Make like Joel Goodsen, “What the f*, make your move.” (Yes, I am quoting Risky Business.) Make your move.
So, again, thank you for tuning in. If you’re a tall woman or girl reading this, I hoped it served to remind you that your body is yours and you can wear whatever you want, especially high heels (if you needed the reminder). If you’re someone who inhabits a body, I hope this challenge made you think or care a little less about external opinion or buy six inch platforms or take up every square inch of your body with pride. Remember, life is life.
Also, a man on the subway asked if I was related to Wendy Williams today. Because we look so much alike I suppose.
Enjoying the view,